New Moms – You’ll Know When You Know

This isn’t a how-to blog and it sure isn’t an expert advice column. It’s simply one new mom’s stream of consciousness about a damn hard, exciting, beautiful and emotional time in life.

I have a new beautiful baby boy and I recently came back from maternity leave.

For years, I wondered if I would be able to juggle motherhood with the demands of a busy ad agency career. I am a planner so I wanted a plan – do I stay home or do I go back to my career? I gave myself and my close friends whiplash going back and forth. My husband and I were so fortunate to have options.

Articles like this from Forbes and from the Huffpost were helpful and inspiring, but they didn’t help me answer my question – if I have the option to stay home, should I?

Then, a good friend nicely told me to zip it and to follow my heart when the time comes. She said I’ll know when I know.

What the heck does that mean? Well, after spending a few months on leave with my amazing son, I finally realized she was right.

There is absolutely no right or wrong answer to this situation, and I’m sure every new mom goes through a range of emotions to find their solution.

But for me, the answer was clear: I was going back to work. There was no doubt in my mind that it was the best solution for my family.

I realized that didn’t mean I loved my son any less. I realized I couldn’t teach my son everything I wanted him to learn. I realized I would be a better mom getting energy from doing what I love. I realized how much I truly love what I do.

All I can say is that although every mom and every situation is different, don’t feel like you need the answer right away. Don’t feel like there is a right or wrong. Sometimes you really just know when you know.

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